This tasting is led by Lavinia, conscious kink facilitator.

Curious about her offerings? You can find her at www.scarsandroses.com and @scars.and.roses

gate: Kinky

Most femdom workshops teach you what to do.

Far fewer ask who you become while doing it.

Have you been curious about dominance and you don't know where to start?

Or maybe you have experience as a dominant but you don't find your expression in the “mean dominatrix” trope? Or maybe you feel overwhelmed by workshops that teach endless techniques before asking a simpler question: who are you when you dominate?

Being dominant doesn't come easily for many women and fem-aligned people. In kink and play, dominance is often imagined as “doing” things to another person in order to create an experience for them. Doing can feel safer than simply inhabiting authority.

But dominance is more than technique, performance, or intensity. It is also about being. It is pacing, attention, presence. The ability to hold a space with very little. And most importantly: accessing, revealing, and acting on your desire.

In this tasting, we slow down and strip dominance to its basics. Together, we explore how to embody dominance in a more grounded and relational way, beyond pornified kink clichés and performance.

What to bring? Comfy and/or kinky outfit. Optional: A preferred play object (eg blindfold, fabric, flogger, cane, whip, or other sensorial item).